23rd July 2019
With more and more of us choosing to take holidays with three generations of our family, Family Traveller’s Amy Hopkins embraces the 3G travel trend by taking a trip with her extended family
If your family is anything like mine (busy!), getting the youngest and oldest together for dedicated quality time can feel like an impossible task. Could a multi-generational family holiday be the answer? So-called ‘3G’ travel – where grandparents, parents and kids all holiday together – is on the rise. Over 70% of families have now tried it, according to a 2019 Virgin Holidays survey. As well as giving busy families dedicated bonding time, 3G travel can help save money and has the added bonus of built-in childcare.
It sounds like a win-win for everyone, so I assembled my own 3G crew consisting of my husband and our daughter, Annie (15 months), plus my parents, my sister and brother-in-law, and their two girls, Ivy (two) and four-week-old Elma. Planning a break for six adults and three infants was not without headaches, especially because we left it quite late. The hardest part was carving out holiday dates that suited everyone from multiple hectic diaries. Like 48% of families who take 3G holidays, we opted to stay in the UK. To maximize our time together, we chose self-catering over a hotel.
HomeAway is a leading holiday rental company, with over two million houses, cottages and cabins across 190 countries. It sounds daunting, but using the website’s filtered search I soon found Lavender Cottage, an attractive, spacious property (with a tennis court!) in the impossibly picturesque village of Yalding near Maidstone in Kent. The location meant everyone’s journey to the cottage would be under an hour – good news when small children are involved.
After booking, my contact at HomeAway introduced me to Tony, the owner of Lavender Cottage, who was quick to answer my questions by phone (Is there a cot? Yes. Are pets allowed? No). Our 3G clan was well catered for and Tony even offered us early check-in and late check-out. Basic baby equipment was provided and there were no stairs to worry about. The open-plan sitting room, kitchen and dining area worked well for keeping an eye on the toddlers, Annie and Ivy, but I sensed grandparents would have occasionally appreciated having somewhere to go to escape the ruckus.
The south-facing balcony overlooking the grounds and tennis court was a scenic spot for family meals. Although the stone steps down to the garden were tricky for little legs, the four-acre grounds were a paradise playground, with a huge lawn, bright flower beds and storybook woodland. Tony encouraged us to help ourselves to the stash of garden toys in the summer house – slides, push-along toys and sit-and-rides. This bounty alone made me glad we’d chosen Lavender Cottage. Annie was happy to whizz down the slide on her tummy and face-plant into the soft grass, over and over again, while her two-year-old cousin Ivy took Grandpa by the hand and led him on a bear hunt through the woodland, shrieking when she heard growls coming from behind trees where her uncle was hiding.
We spent an afternoon at nearby family attraction Kent Life where the miniature train was a hit all-round (some things it seems you’re never too old for). Mostly though, all generations were content to enjoy the garden and the occasional short stroll into Yalding. My parents offered to babysit after the children went to bed, so my sister and I could go out for the evening with our husbands. In the end though, neither my sister or I took them up on it, preferring to enjoy a glass of wine on the balcony, gossiping as we watched the sky turn pink.
Of course, this is real life, so forget any fantasies of three generations skipping merrily down the beach, hand-in-hand. According to one study, 52% of families admit to arguing on multi-generational holidays, with eating arrangements causing the most squabbles (ICarHireInsurance.com, May 2019). We avoided dining disagreements by planning our meals beforehand, each couple taking responsibility for one dinner, but there were certainly moments when I questioned why we were doing this. During our farm visit, for instance, Annie did an explosive poo just as I realised my sister had accidentally driven off with my nappy bag, in her haste to get her fractious newborn home. But, when I look back on this trip – the photo of Annie and Ivy holding holds or the video of my mum teaching Annie to say ‘beep beep’ as Grandmother and Granddaughter push a toy car around the garden – I’ll know why we did.
Having tried it, I understand why multi-generational travel is so popular. Yes, it has certain practical benefits, but for me it comes down to this; children are happiest when they’re surrounded by all their favourite people, and happy children equals happy holidays. Travelling with your extended family doesn’t have to be complicated or exotic. We travelled less than an hour from our homes and yet everyone in my 3G posse agreed the holiday had been special. Our family WhatsApp group is already buzzing with ideas for the next one.